As a mom I am constantly hugging and kissing my son even though he already acts like a teenager and won’t allow me to kiss him very much. There are still a few special times where he is really huggy like after a bath, early in the morning, or after he gets hurt, but he never wants me to kiss him very much anymore. I was sad about this at first and as an alternative I usually make a game out of it where I tell him I’m gonna steal kisses or I tickle him and kiss him, but he recently taught me an important lesson regarding how we express love. Kissing is one very important and popular way that we express love but not everyone is comfortable with it. I know some people who don’t like kissing in public for instance. I always knew that but one night, Griffin reminded me that there are other ways to express love.
About a year ago, I told him that when we are holding hands and I squeeze his hand 3 times it means that I love him. So, for about a year now we have this little thing where I squeeze his hand 3 times and then he squeezes mine back 3 times. I love this of course but recently he took it to the next level and it melted my heart. I was putting him to bed one night and he said, “Mommy, when I hold your hand hearts go from inside of me into you and to your heart”. This was the sweetest thing he had ever said to me. Now, sometimes he will remind me to hold his hand before bed so that I can get his hearts. This made me realize that I don’t need to be upset that he won’t let me kiss him much anymore and reminded me that love can be expressed in any way you choose to express it. In this case, Griffin was creative enough to assert that his hearts flowing into me show me the love that he feels for me. I will take that any day over a kiss!